“Keeping Neat and Tidy”

So what do you think? It’s good to tell children to clean up their rooms and tidy up when they have made a mess, right? That seems obvious, right?

But how is it done in this graphic strip? It is done in a “gotcha” kind of way. This happens when one person makes the other feel comfortable and relaxed so that they have their defenses down. Then they are slammed unexpectedly.

This doesn’t just happen in parent to child interactions. It can happen in adult to adult interactions as well. This does not edify, or “build up.” Instead it “tears down.” This does not minister grace.

Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 (NRSV)

Maybe there is more to “corrupt communications” than just the actual words said (like curse words)? Maybe the motivations and intended purposes are important too?

Here is the good news. With the Spirit of Christ in us, we can use our words to edify others and minister grace to them.

6 thoughts on ““Keeping Neat and Tidy”

  1. Saying the wrong thing. I hate it when I do that. Yes, I apologize, but the words are still there in the person’s mind. Words are something you can’t erase no matter how much you wish you could.

    I’m asking God to make me pause and think before I speak. I’ve felt a change, and have sometimes stopped what I was thinking of saying. Sometimes I start speaking and stop myself. It is an improvement, and I thank God for his help.

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    1. Very true. Words can leave a lasting mark on a person’s life…either to encourage or discourage. I read a great book once (or twice because it was that good!) titled “Who I Am In Christ” by Neil T. Anderson. It really helps to put new messages into our lives to replace the old ones. I’m not trying to sell that book though! There are plenty of similar resources online for free! Anyway, your comment just made me think of it. Thanks!

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      1. There’s also a PDF you can find on Google that gives the main Bible verse references used. It’s the same as in the back of the book and can be folded up and carried in a pocket (for those times when you’re just not feeling a great deal of assurance, etc.) Anyway, could give you an idea of the book, sort of like a free preview.

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